if being lonely is unacceptable to you, then why are you alone?

i deal with this same issue. it is my choice i do not go out of my apartment. it is my choice i not introduce myself to my next door neighbors. it is my choice i do not participate in sports or poetry readings or sight-seeings or single-groups or any groups or social clubs within the city or religious events or cultural gatherings. if i go some where there are others, i do let my hair cover my face. i don't say hi. i don't smile. i don't talk about the weather. i don't offer my assistance. i don't do anything i know would create friends. i try not to remember how i made friends and lovers in the past....through other friends introductions.

you and i don't have to be lonely. all we have to do is open our eyes to the world. risk experiencing life. really smell the flowers. go to the book store or coffee shop. start making eye contact. smile more. help the elderly. maybe start up a conversation. join some type of social group. don't worry about what others are thinking. just smile and be nice. eventually you'll make friends. some people will hurt you, but some will become life-long friends, too. and that's worth it all.... (((Huggs)))