I was encouaraged to keep a journal of when I had headaches. I resented that because it meant I actually had to feel the head aches. While I was doing that my daughter was doing something I veiwed as harmful. I was struggling to find a way to get her not to do theactivity I was worried about. Boom, I got a headache thinking about her problem. After getting the headache, mydaughter's activity was not something to worry about; I saw it as an opperttunituy for her to learn. What she wanted to do would hurt her, but she would learn from the pain, and I had no need to do anything. What I am trying to describe is that I switched to an alter with a very different point of view. This made the fact that I had alters very plain to me. It explained lost time. It exolained why I/we were always very evasive about things. (It was better to avoid proclaiming alike or dislike, so that people could not say , "but I thought you said......" when you switched and your opinion changed.
For a time we had a buletine board where we shared stuff that who ever was out ought to know. A very minamalist form of co-conscousness. We/I did not want to become "one."
That has stopped, probably due to stress. We are seing all kinds of Red flags warning us. We will have to reduce stress (probably not an option) or creat a new way of sharing info and of being kinder to eachother (sharing time more and trusting each other more).
Writing this has clarified my/our thinking about what has gone on.