Our children are much more understanding then you think. It is not selfish to take care of your self when you are sick. I don't know how old your daughter is but as a parent you can apologize. We have activities based on mood. We've toy'd with the idea of mood magnets. The hardest job is to be a parent, w/ MI or not. The way I have to see it is as long as we're working out our issues and not denying them we are better parents then most.