Here is a technical check. Do you know whether you have a hymen? Sometimes tampon use tells you the answer, but sometimes not. My long-term female partner was a virgin lesbian. We had some interesting struggles and pleasures because she had a very tight intact hymen. I agree with whoever said you ought to confide in lesbian friends. Find out how they all did this. It is true what everyone says about pleasure and you're not old, and love, and waiting isn't weird. But I do want to add that you might figure out whether you have a hymen and then figure out whether you want a woman to penetrate and tear your hymen. Some lesbians have a simple surgery to have their hymens removed so that they don't bleed and potentially be uncomfortable or scare their partner if and when the hymen tears. I am not trying to make you more nervous. I am affirming your concern from a medical standpoint. Good luck. shipping