I think an important part of communication is being very clear. When things are a fog, we have our hands out in front of us and we guess. They get it wrong. They are human doing the best they can with the information given. To continue to skirt the issue puts you in a place to continue punishing your T silently for getting it wrong, when he's not being given all the information it's hardly fair when he's trying to help.

I think it's an extremely important, sensitive topic. And every thing feels triggered and scary and inflamed. Look at ways T can soothe you and make this better.