hey maricris. i'm sorry but this isn't love, you don't treat people this way if you truly love them, no matter what problems you may have. it sounds to me like he is a control freak who wants it all his own way. it sounds like he just wants you around for when it suits him, at a loose end for dinner or a movie etc. i don't mean this to sound cruel it's just my opinion as a woman who has had two violent marriages, both men were also major control freaks. i went thru years of hell with both and not one friend felt they had the right to "lecture" me with the truth. i wish they had.

anyways, if you really do feel the need to carry on this relationship ... good luck but i really don't see this ever being the relationship you need or want.