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Old May 06, 2012, 09:13 AM
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Originally Posted by PreacherHeckler View Post
Why should a therapist go down the same path if it leads to colluding with the client? An "appropriate time to broach the why" is very subjective, and without asking the therapist why he chose that time or those words, we are making assumptions about what he should have said or done when we don't have all the information we need either, because we still don't even know that he didn't notice.

I feel like you are taking my thought to an extreme as far as being right or wrong. It is not colluding with them to stagnate change. Let's say this issue weren't about words but about touch. What if the T was a hugger and the client hated touch. T hugs client but client doesn't hug back. T decides it must be the hugs so he goes to handshakes instead of no touch (I.e. Mirroring client) or asking and client is still uncomfortable.