I've been married. I like being single. I don't have the time to devote to a man right now. If I wanted a man, the last place I'd look for him would be in a bar. I don't see anything wrong with online dating or matchmaking services; but I also encourage people to look among the interests and hobbies they already have (any man I would want would have to be of my faith, charitable, like animals) and to be open to people who share the traits you hold dear; if you like city life, dating lumberjacks might not be the best match. Anyone who wants children could consider adopting or being a foster parent; anyone who wants a beautiful home could make one with or without a man. As far as looks go, I like to be pretty and well-dressed but I don't have the money for expensive clothes and I don't like high-maintenance stuff like dyed hair, gallons of makeup and fancy fingernails. The man who likes women who have those things isn't going to look twice at me and that's ok. So it's finding your natural balance, I think, not putting your life on hold because there is no man in it--and canceling subscriptions to those magazines!