My T and I have been working hard this past month, we've had a few ruptures and we have really been working through them together. At times I have said to him, I think you F--- up here, and he is willing to here this and work through it to do better work....

***trigger**** for mention of SA

so, we have been very slowing getting to the experiences from my past, I went into actual details for the first time instead of generally refering to it....I stopped at a certain point but it was the begining of the uncomforatable stuff. HERE IS MY CONCERN: when I gave details, I left it (very much on purpose) gender neutral as to who the assaulter in this particular incident was. I never said he or she I only referred to it as "this person".

The next time we met, he brought up what I had talked about and went ahead assigned a gender to the assaulter, ---and he is wrong. I stopped him from talking and just didn't know what to think. I mean, maybe it is natural (on his part) to assume it was a male but it wasn't. Now, I know he was listening, but how could he not have known I was being very careful not to reveal the identity?

Is this a colassal f-up on his part? An understandable mistake? Does it mean he wasn't really listenting? I am not sure how to interpret this?