Hi, I don't really know what category to put this question in but I really need help.

I'm 16 years old and a sophomore in high school. when I was younger, my father abused me by locking me out of the house when it was really cold or really hot outside and wouldn't let me in for hours. well, I tried to tell my mother and uncle about it but they didn't think it was abuse. they said I was too "wimpy" and needed to be turned into a man. I avoid my father as much as possible now. but that's not the problem. for the past few years, my soccer coach has been pushing me around too and this year it started getting really bad. the reason I need your guys' help is because I don't know if I'm just being weak and thinking that it's abuse when it isnt. maybe i'm relating it to what happened with my father and thinking it's abuse when my coach is just doing his job.

when we do drills as a team and someone misses the goal, my coach just tells them to try again. but when i mess up, he makes me stand in the goal and not move while he tells another kid to kick the ball as hard as possible into the goal. i've come home from soccer with bloody noses a lot and tried telling my mom but she, once again, says i need to be pushed around like that.

my coach insists that i take private lessons with him because i need to improve, even though i made the varsity team in school. during private practices he just tells me, "pushups. now." he doesn't tell me how many i need to do. he just expects me to keep going until he is satisfied, and sometimes i have had to do over 100 pushups in the heat. one time, it was snowing outside and he told me to do pushups. my hands were buried in the snow and they eventually started bleeding and hurting, so i stopped for a minute. then he stepped on my back and made me start over. when i do crunches he kicks me in the side if i slow down. because i couldn't improve my mile time he hit me in the head and then threw out my water bottle (no water for the rest of practice). i've thought about quitting but that would make my dad really angry and he'd start abusing me again. i'm worried though that my coach is just doing his job?? if he was a school coach he'd get in trouble for sure but he's a really good player and has unconventional ways. should i stick it out? am i making a big deal over nothing?