I don't know much about Avoidants so I don't know if I will be much help there. I do know that I am very introverted and I mostly keep to myself. I have an outgoing personality, but I am so ashamed of the way I look (being overweight and miserable) that I shy away from social events and people in general.

You just have to take a few leaps and come outside yourself. Take that risk, strike up a conversation on a post by posting something like your favorite tv show or favorite book and get people talking. I thought I wouldn't get any responses on one of my posts but I got 5 and I'm so happy! Silly things like that make my day, and I'm sure you will find your place.

Good luck to you and keep posting!