ah ok. so what do your own gut instincts tell you about Tommy himself personally, if you don't think about past experiences? how soon does he want to meet in person? do you believe what he tells you about being willing to go along with whatever your T says and being willing to go as slow as you need?

i'm not great on trust issues, relationships, giving advice, so this is just some thoughts for you to ask yourself.

but whatever you decide, make sure everything is at your pace and keep safe ... i.e if you do meet him in person, make it somewhere public or have a friend present.