Sorry if the title alone triggered you...it sure as heck triggers me.

Just got back from the pharmacy where they had that evil card display. The one with no card's that say "Thanks for all the neglect and abuse, you're one of a kind". For all of you that have gone No Contact with your FOO, I applaud you. You are brave and strong and I totally admire that you did that. Me...not so brave or strong. Mom isn't my primary abuser, but she neglected us and withheld even the smallest form of love. I have cared for her my whole life. I am totally responsible for her well being and happiness. Funny, I didn't start hating her until I started T 6 yrs ago. She's 82 and feeble. She doesn't live with me (tg) but I have to maintain her large home on a daily basis. She can bathe herself, cook for herself...etc...for now, but I know whats coming. Her Driving is limited and her mind is going. It's a buttload of work to do for someone you loathe. And of course there are the constant insults and innuendos about what a bad person I am and how nothing I do is right. My siblings don't give a crap....sometimes I can get my brother to do a weekend, but she will call me the entire weekend and tell my brother nasty things about me.

Anyways....I found a card that doesn't lie. The cover says "A mother's love means so much to a little girl" the inside says "it means a lot to a big girl too". No where does it say thanks for the love, or you gave me that love...etc. I am giving her a statement, because I know damn well she doesn't have a clue what a mother's love would have done for me. She won't get it, but I will and it's a secret jab that gives me pleasure.