Kris ... I consider you a friend. I accept you as you are.
What people forget (me included) is that in order for one person to truly support another, this must include telling them that they are both being too harsh with themselves, and validating that there are things they legitimately want to change, which is their personal choice and preference.

So ... I support you in wanting physical health, AND I'm giving you hugs for beating yourself up over everything. I wish you all the best making step-by-step changes toward whatever you want for your life. As for those self-hating thoughts that tear you down at every step and just get in the way, please join me in telling them "Leave Kris the %^#$ alone already, she's a good person!"

I think we all need to disentangle our own real voice that wants genuine self-improvement from the absorbed voices that tell us we are nothing and that we can't and don't deserve to make it.

((((( Kris )))))