Man alive.. if going to therapy multiple times a week makes you an idiot - - then you're probably in a room full of idiots here!

Mine has varied. For a long period of time, I saw my therapist twice a week, and sometimes a third time. I was dealing with a lot of resurfacing trauma and I would not have been able to cope if I only saw her once a week. It took 2 to 3 times a week to keep me stable and functioning.

And as far as dependency, I have my own thoughts about that. i have always been as independent as all-get-out. Didn't need to lean on anyone. Turns out, though, that my passionate self-reliance was more about survival than anything else. My parents were wholly unavailable. I was the only person I had.

My therapist decided early on that I had attachment issues - and her goal was for me to become attached to her. I resisted it, had no interest in it, and thought it sounded very icky. I even told her "You won't ever have to worry about me becoming dependent.. the greater concern might be that I cannot depend." But she hung in there with me, and over time, her always being there, always emotionally available, always understanding me, connecting with me, making me feel like I wasn't alone.. eventually she 'caught' me inadvertently talking in a way that she said: "That sure sounds like attachment to me :-)" I eventually allowed it to happen. I think I had a deep fear of it not being 'real' or being unreliable because I'd never experienced real attachment before. Anyway, there was something about the way my therapist opened her whole self to take me in.. encouraging me to attach.. to depend.. and her being wholly responsive and reliable.. that left me fully capable of standing on my own two feet. If my attachment to her was insecure, and if I had not been able to feel dependent, I don't think I would be where I am now - with a healthy capability of attaching and being mutually interdependent.