I am sorry...I am just coming across this post...first of all, how are you doing? Did the weekend bring any relief?

I've been struggling at work quite a bit lately, so I can totally relate. I've spoken with the offenders. I've written numerous emails. I've asked them numerous times. I've been pleasant and firm. I've been assertive.

Yet, they completely ignore everything I say - and do whatever they want anyway. I feel like I'm speaking but somehow they aren't hearing me. So frustrating!

As a result: I've lost sleep. I've cried. I've spoken with the appropriate parties (grapes/oranges). All to no avail. (it's a free for all around here)

Last week, I felt totally attacked and insulted and offended so much so that I felt as if I was going to faint. I left work.

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I JUST finally had it out with one of the offenders, actually (so this is perfect timing that I found your post).

She came in to my office and asked me a question (the same questions I've answered a million times). I was sitting and she was standing looking down at me. I was so fed up.

I stood up and we were eye to eye so she was not in a power position. Actually I was taller. I faced her completely, hands down at my side (a little hand movement for emphasis). I said as calmly as I could, the same exact answer I've been saying all along. She interrupted me and started talking over me. I repeated myself, no luck. She wasn't hearing what I was saying - at all.

Finally, I said, "We have spoken about this numerous times. I've written emails confirming. I've tried everything I can think of to communicate properly. I understand this is a stressful time for everyone. You are super busy I am super busy.

(lighter tone) I'm starting to take this personally...What is it about me...or what I am saying...that isn't getting through?"

She just stammered. She honestly had NOT been listening to a word I said until just that moment. She just said, "oh, I, I..."

I said, "Please think about it and let me know. I like you a lot but I feel as if I'm not communicating properly, and I really want to."

She just sort of walked (actually wandered) away. I think she won't be ignoring me anymore.

(to be continued)

I FELT A HUGE WEIGHT LIFT OFF MY SHOULDERS. HONESTLY. I confronted her full-on, and it was scarym and I felt nervous, but I did it.

Perhaps you can do the same thing.

You can do it! You have it in you! You don't have to feel helpless and victimized and miserable. And if I can do it, you definitely can do it.

Please keep us posted on how you are doing.