How can people write two pages about how depressed and lonely they are, and how they feel so uncared for and unloved.. but they're married or in a relationship.

I don't understand how people in relationships can reach that level of depression. I feel like the core of a lot of my issues and something that consumes me day in and day out is that I've been single for pretty much all of my life (I'm 32 / female) and that there is a pretty much slim to none chance of me entering a relationship any time soon, maybe ever, at the rate I'm going.

Don't get me wrong - I realize it's not that straightforward and there are plenty of bad / unfulfilling / abusive / whatever relationships out there. But a lot of people that are happily married or paired up just do nothing but talk like their world is coming to an end. I just don't get it.

I just feel like there is a world of difference between being depressed, and then being depressed and hopelessly, terminally, soul-crushingly alone.

Ya know?????

I'm so sorry if I come off as insensitive, I really don't mean to be. I'm just sort of perplexed. I become kind of elated if someone I like even looks in my direction. It's like my whole world turns around. Of course I never end up with them. But I feel like if I had a relationship my existence would be validated, I'd feel like someone loved me and cared. It would be such a weight lifted. I'd feel whole and sane. Like yeah, I've got issues, stuff sucks, but I'm a worthwhile enough person that someone is sticking around listening to me complain and handing me tissues when I'm crying about my debt or bad day at work or how ugly I feel.

(By the way, I'm apparently, or so I'm told, physically attractive, educated, and have a sense of humor and all that. I'm a fine human being. I'm just not attractive to men, there's just something about me they don't like. I've tried to figure out why but after 32 years I think it's time to just accept that it is what it is so f#@!< it.)