Hearing you loud and clear. Sometimes I think it is the mom's that are most at fault. I was abused by both my father and my brother but disclosed my brothers abuse when I was a child. It was swept under the carpet and I was labelled as the crazy one, forced into ongoing contact and the abuse continued. It was only many years later that I discovered when my disclosure occured my brother disclosed my our father's abuse of HIM (and in the course of that our father admitted abusing myself and the other children in the family too). I asked our mother why she didn't do anything about it, why she joined in the scapegoating of me and allowed my brother and our father to continue to abuse myself and others.

Our mother said "I couldn't think about it because if I did *I* wouldn't be able to sleep with him again."

For f***s sake, What kind of mother thinks like that??? What kind of mother thinks like yours, saying you "only had to put up with it for another year."

That's just sick.