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Originally Posted by 1tash1
We are getting along OK but [it] seems I have to initiate everything that happens before it happens. [It] doesn't seem right to me. [It] feels like [it] is only happening to make me feel better, not her. Does that sound stupid? [It's] like I am by myself; she do[es]n't start anything for herself. Should I lay back an wait or be the aggressor? Before all these problems [it] was like we both [were] the aggressor together.
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If your needs are getting met, don't get hung up on right now only you starting things. Things did not get as bad as they are overnight and they will not get back to a mutually good place overnight.
She could be holding back, trying to see if your attitude change will stick. She may never have been comfortable asserting herself all the time. There could be a number of reasons for what you are perceiving. But regardless of the reason, don't ruin something that is going good by worrying about whether or not it is going the way you perceive it should in your head.