It's unfortunate that most people believe adoption is a betrayal and tend to judge parents who choose adoption.

I think it's more unfortunate for a child to grow up feeling like a Plan B or Consolation Prize.

I wonder...if our hearts ache for the couple who cannot have biological children and so desperately want to adopt... how can we also have the belief that placing a baby for adoption is such a betrayal?

Perhaps it's because many of the desperate parents-to-be insist on having an "infant" (which seems sort of selfish and conditional to me. I mean if they really wanted to have a family why be so picky. There are plenty of children here in the US that desperately need unconditionally loving homes).

How can it not be perceived as a betrayal when a child is literally being given away to someone else? A human being? Not a dog or a cat.