Sounds like the type of family that if they won the lottery, would complain about the money the government would take out of it instead of enjoying their part. Also sounds like a bucket of crabs...all the other crabs grab the one trying to get out of the bucket.

I agree with other posters. I believe some therapists call it "low contact". Now that you will be married, your husband comes first before your family of origin. How great is that?

Looking for some inspiration, try reading "The Power of Positive Thinking". It's a great book to insulate you from all the negativity you have faced. Surround yourself with positive influences.

I wish you the best in your marriage...it's communication, commitment and comprimise.