I am so scared to make a mistake that's why I am asking,I never ever what that feeling I had before when I was away from my family. Are talks has been between us both not just 1 sided well mostly my wife,she talks allot more then I do lol ,but doing anything at all, has been 1 sided,makes me real nervous,I never made all the decisions ever, maybe somethings that change I will have to get accustom to ,is so hard ,I trying to take the right approach on everything,my wife has actually been consistent on how she has been acting,as far as the kids they trying to play between us both but they really having no luck, so I really not to much worried about them at this time, I care about them and love them didn't mean in a bad way.Example Leed I brought to my wifes attention about the shower thing I posted awhile ago,I initiated intimacy over the weekend, cause she did that I felt I had to know.She has been listening to the counselor trying different things and saying different things as well. I think I am over thinking it all !!I don't know,like LightningMan said don't ruin something that is going good.I like being straight forward and open not a good thing all the time I have been learning.