Does it work to not ask for things so you don't have to deal with the rejection? From T, primarily.

I always seem to take a deep breath and dive in and ask for what I want. It doesn't work. I can only think of one time when I got what I asked T for.

So it's an honest question, because I'm not done with T yet but I don't want to be so effing raw and rejected anymore either. Does it really work to not ask for what you want? Or does the not asking create worse problems of its own?