I'm kind of with Kacey on this one. For awhile, asking for what I wanted felt helpful, even though I was sometimes told no. But more recently it's become clearer to me that my asking has become too much for my T.

That said, I do think it could potentially be helpful to talk with your T about your experience of asking.

People will say that it's not always about getting what you want, that the act of asking itself is important, especially if you're accustomed to not asking for what you want/need in life in general. I'm getting ready to call ******** on that though, because it really, really sucks to be rejected over and over again.

I don't really know if not asking works. I tried that my entire life and felt like it wasn't working, but I don't know that the alternative is any better.

Sorry I can't be of more help or more encouraging. Empathy for you though, that I have in spades.