Ok, Kant your logic is not new to me especially, "Do you want to give something you have kept personal for 24 years to just anybody?"
I don't really believe in waiting till marriage but I have always felt that to physically have sex with another (not just the talking online stuff) I would need to be with them a while to even begin considering it "comfortable" to open up that way. At the same time, how can I meet such a guy if anytime one hits on me or flirts with me I shy away completely. The idea of a guy finding me attractive in that way is kind of incomprehensible and even excepting myself being sexual (and I mean flirting or showing my attraction to another) just doesn't happen. Something stops me. I was hoping to do something towards changing this...