If your T always gives you the reassurance you seek or always does it the same way, you may come to rely on the reminder and never actually absorb the feeling and put it into action. By weening off the constant reassurance, the hope is that your patterns have been changed and you could find your ways to cope.

For example, at the beginning of therapy, my T was pretty quick to accept my blame of and anger at other people. She was also quick to help me not blame myself. She stopped doing this. I noticed and called her on it. She said the other way wasn't working and she was right. I am slowly realizing that it is not all someone else's fault or all my fault, and it is sticking with me more because it is coming from within.