the problem with paying for sex is it degrades our self-worth. (NOTE: sexual abuse victims tend to have low self-worth.)

it's difficult for me to understand someone who is unable to get sex. maybe it's because i'm female??? i know i can go to any bar, get drunk, and find myself in bed with some stranger (for free). however, i see plenty of men (attractive and not) get women (and men) that way, too. of course, it's not free for a man because typically the man pays for all the drinks. I AM NOT IN ANY WAY SUGGESTING THIS IS WHAT YOU SHOULD DO. i'm just saying i don't understand why someone can't get sex. of course, you did say you wanted a relationship, right?

one option, you could invest time with online relationships. it has worked with me and i have met a few and dated a few in person. create a homepage specifically intended to get you a date. put all your talents, creativity, interests, hopes, struggles, dreams, etc. on the web page. then ADVERTISE it. i tend to believe there is someone out there for everyone. (TIP: it may help to even be honest about your past sexual experiences and fantasies.)

(((Huggs)))