Soo, the results are in - lol.

Long story short: t said she thought it was okay, but to take it slow and pay attention to my feelings.

Long story long: t said it's been her expierence with others that things go best when they take it slow. I told her how I feel I'm going down the same road because of their similarities. So we sort of picked apart certain behaviors from the rape guy that were negative (prior to the incident), and certain behaviors from Tommy that were positive. Next visit she's going to give me some sheets on Red Flags to look for in relationships.

t said to pay attention to my feelings. So I told her about this time Tommy said something that made me uncomfortable. How I stopped him telling him it made me uncomfortable. He stopped but asked me why it made me uncomfortable. And I liked that he was sort of pushy about knowing why it made me uncomfortable because it forced me to examine my feelings. t thought this was all good. Good that I was able to tell him to stop, good that he stopped, and good that I was comfortable discussing it with him.

t also said to pay attention to how he treats people, how he treats any one really. And I told her he still lives with his mom, which to me says that for the most part they get along. That he has a lot of friends who he's been friends with for awhile.

All in all, I'm not really dating him yet ... we're just going down that road. Maybe I'm over-reacting; thinking too much about what happened, instead of trying to move forward. idk. I do feel better after talking to t.

And I REALLY appreciate everyone's advice/thoughts. Thank you all soo much!