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Irreplaceable · May 09, 2012, 12:20 PM

Your family is not supportive of you. At all. You are making big life changes and they are telling you that you are going to fail when they should be showing you support. Who does that? Getting married should be one of the happiest times of your life, yet you have negativity all around. Your parents need to put themselves aside for ONE DAY for their daughter. It's called being unselfish. If they don't want to be around each other, they should smile, bit their tongue, fake it, and take one for the team. Which is you. It's not that hard. If they don't like each other, they don't need to speak but at least be cordial. They can fake it for you for one day. If they are complaining about having to see each other on your big day, they need to stop. You have too much to worry about with wedding plans vs having to baby someone else's feelings. I would be straight forward with them. I would. Accomodate them within reasonable demands.

You need to do what is best for you. I can't tell you what you should do. And I may not be a good person to get advice from on things like this. Because i'm the type of person where, I don't need negative energy around me. Whether it comes from family or not. I love my family, but there are people that I stay away from because I don't need the negative energy bringing me down. All they have to say is one thing, and I am all out of wack and I don't need that. I have cut off contact or decreased contact with people because they are my trigger. I have absolutely no problem with telling someone when and why they are wrong, and distancing myself if need be. You can do things in a way that is respectful of other's feelings yet looking out for yourself at the same time. Sounds like you have haters around. They are divorced and miserable so they want to bring you down. Good luck and congrats!