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I understand the dilemma of your situation. My family does not know about my therapy issues,(would probably kill me if they did) but what's worse is i LIVE with them all the time, so even though I live 15 minutes from campus (use counseling center there) summer isn't an option for the fear they would find out and I wouldn't even be able to have that to return to in the fall.
Regarding feeling needy, that was an issue I had to work through really hard in therapy. and as hard as it is, it will help to talk to your therapist about it. Once I was able to open myself up to needing and relying on my sessions, it seemed like it became easier to work on everything else.
and yes. our circumstances do suck. But hey, at least we're not the only ones...