I have to give credit where credit is due.

He finally emailed back. Yes, he made a mistake with turning the 2 hours into 1 hour and then scheduling something afterwards. But then he said he had more wiggle room than he thought and he could meet for the 2 hours after all.

So everything's good, right?

Of course not. And this time I'm sure it's all my crap.

In the first email before he had more wiggle room he said, "I do need to keep it to an hour, however. I have something scheduled closely thereafter." That would have meant the appointment going from 9 - 10 instead of 9-11.

But it turned out that the closely scheduled something wasn't actually scheduled until 12:30-2:00.

So this is what I'm reading into it (and I'll admit that I'm probably reading into it).

In the first email when I ask if I can have some of our marriage t as individual t because of the scary trauma work I've been doing with T2 he thinks we may go over an hour. So Mr. Boundaries makes it oh so clear that we stop at 10. Then, when he realizes his mistake in the appointment time he "finds" more time, no longer has a firm boundary of one hour, and because the original plan was 2 hours he can now do 2 hours. Until 11. But if that hadn't been the original plan that he messed up on then he still would have had to stop promptly at 10 -- and would have told me that very clearly and firmly, just like he did -- and would have made no accommodation (as is his pattern) for me because of my extra "need" to process some of the trauma crap with him.

At least he fixed his mistake, right? And I DO feel better.

But the fact remains that he will not make accommodations for me -- at all -- for any of the ebbs and flows of my therapy.

Boy are we going to have a fun conversation this next session. If I can get the flingin' flangin' words out of my mouth.

(and part of me has to laugh -- because how stinking obvious it is why I need therapy! )