((((jkristana))))),

Oh, I am so glad you chose to speak to a teacher about the coach. I am sure that was hard for you to do that. But you really did the right thing by speaking up.

I am wondering how old you are?

About your father, the fear he has instilled in you is also WRONG. Children are not supposed to fear their fathers like you do. A father is there to support and raise his son in a safe secure supportive environment. A father is supposed to respect his child and NOT hit or beat him. We do not problem solve by HITTING AND BEATING PEOPLE, we problem solve by using our brains and interacting with each other intellectually. VIOLENCE does not solve problems. And hiding and running away in fear, does not SOLVE PROBLEMS.

Maybe you didn't really want to play that sport. When someone really wants something, they have no problem doing the work necessary to achieve that desire to do something they REALLY WANT TO DO. You cannot live your life by filling your father's wants for you to do, you have to do what YOU want to do in life. And your father is suppose to respect and support that. We encourage our children by supporting them taking them out to the track and even running with them and getting down with them and doing pushups together. We teach children to BELIEVE they can and LEARN HOW TO DIG DEEP AND PUSH HARD to make an effort to achieve. We don't teach children by threatening them, beating them, kicking their sides and making them do pushups in the snow, and locking them outside of the house all night like they are a dog that peed on the floor or something.

Working with a child is all about helping them find their ability and rewarding them for all the small achievements they make, not just if they win, but if they make progress forward. Enjoying life is NOT ALWAYS ABOUT WINNING, it is more about the playing of the game itself and making attempts to continue learning and progressing as best as we can.

An A student is not always the student that can graduate from a learning environment and apply that knowledge in the outside world. One can be good at the structure of school and yet lousy at the free challenging open road outside a school.

All children deserve to have a strong base in their home environment with parents that are educated in knowing how to raise a healthy child. Children do not deserve to be hit and beat and locked outside and abused. Children depend on their parents to support and interact with them in positive ways.

Your father's treatment of you is showing his extreme ignorance. You deserve better. You should NOT be afraid of your father because you are not allowing the coach to abuse you, if your father was a worthy man at all he would support you in that choice. I would never want my daughter to allow herself to be abused by a trainer. In fact she was being abused by a trainer and I didn't like it and I taught her how she had the right to pick up our horse and leave that trainer. She was afraid to do that, but I took her and we left and she was wecomed by a different more respectable trainer. She learned a big lesson from that, if she is being abused, she will not stay anywhere and allow that to happen, she leaves that environment. And THAT is what a parent TEACHES THEIR CHILD HOW TO DO.

Your father and that coach are BULLIES. Bullies are cowards that like to pick on weak people because they themselves are weak and seem to need to overpower something. There is NOTHING intelligent about bullies and we are now more and more creating laws and encouraging the outing of bullies in our schools and other environments. The only way to get rid of bullies is to stand up to them, it is not easy, but it IS getting better because people are coming forward and exposing these bullies now. We now know that bullies cause psychological damage to healthy people. They are not productive people, they are SICK people.

(((Hugs)))
Open Eyes