No, no digging holes. That's what this place is for, to give and receive what we don't get in 3D. We also need to give ourselves what we don't get from others. We need to be "selfish" if you will. We need to treat ourselves the way we want others to treat us.

After 30 yrs of wanting, needing and not getting the validation from the man I married, I've finally decided to get him completely out of my life because no matter how I try to hang on to who I know I really am, his treatment of me sabotages every aspect of my life. There comes a time when you just have to cut those people out of your life and give yourself the things you need and want.