It really does help to have that safe place. And yeppers, I do use it for when T is not around.

It is something that belongs to that person on the inside. I do have someone there with me (someone who passed over a long time ago), and I have the image of my T there - he is a dolphin :-) We use it in EMDR to ground, but I tend to try to use it for daily things as well now.

I found a book about this - if the link will work :-)
http://books.google.com/books?id=LiX...page&q&f=false