Hi everyone...I have a question I am struggling with and need opnions. My 10 year old daughter, almost 11 in 2 weeks has been in the same small Catholic since K. She is now in 5th grade. We had some problems with her medicine and had to take he off and am trying to find another medicine that will help her that is a non stimulant. In the meantime, my daughter has behavioral issues such as refusing to do her classwork and talking back to the teachers. She has been warned for years about this but continued her behavior despite all we tried to do to help her. She was classified and was getting extra help. Now the school has told us that she is not welcomed back next year. It is because of her disrespect and her refusal to do her classwork. Her beother, who is gifted and is in only 1st grade, will also have to leave the school becuase I refuse to leave him there and move just her. I think it would cause bad feelings between them to leave him there while telling her she has to go somewhere else. So based on this, I have decided that both children need to be moved.
Since this is a result of my dd actions, is this something she should be told about? My husband thinks we should just say we can't afford that school any more and not tell her but I fear if we don't tell her, she won't know and won't be able to change the behaviaor. I don't want to her think what she did was okay. In her private school, the teacher would tell her to do her work and then she would pick up the pencil but put it down the minute the teacher turned her back. Doing homework was a nightmare with her and she would fight me tooth and nail not to do it. Even reduced homework, she didn't want to do. At almost 11, I think she should be told her actions lead to this consequence but I'm not sure. She is emotional. How should I handle this. She does not have any friends outside of school there yet it's the only school she has ever been too. Please give me your opinons. The public school kind of told she should be told that she leaving and have her come over to tour the school. The public school she will have to go to is a failing school in NJ. Meaning it got a state record of F because half of the children there fail the state tests. She is going from a high achieving Catholic school to a poorly achieving public school. She will be classifed and get more help there, but I worry about her atttude and refusal to do work. Please advise.