I agree--ruptures are two sided. It takes two to repair.

Hankster, I related to your comment about parents not allowing tantrums. Maybe children who were not allowed to have tantrums are among those who would not have big T ruptures, storm out of T's office, quit without trying to work it out, etc. There does seem to be a one-sidedness to that kind of reaction. I was not allowed to have tantrums as a child, but I also was never shown any models of how to work things out. I lack basic skills! Therapy has helped with that somewhat. Still working on my basic "working it out" skills...