My mother is the abuser and narcisstic person in our home.She managed to get my Dad an early 'send of'f to heaven and tried very hard on us the daughters.Anyway 2 siblings of mine live in misery, she must be happy. I have severed ties from her 4 years ago,to keep my sanity.I cannot live in a 'war zone'anymore, too traumatic and so much fighting anf hatred and evilness. Now my mother has told the church she is lonely and wants to see me. Right, see me to abuse me? .Once again she traps me and tells everyone who can judge me how horrible I am.the church worker calls up and makes a huge judgemental phrase and said 'so why arent you seeing your mother', 'when was the last time blah blah blah'.I told her I wasnt able to talk as I was at work.
I havent help wondering how lucky my mother is to be an abuser.She abused all of us and made us run around for her, then dad died and she beacme the poor sad widow, now shes old and she's the poor old lady.So the whole world will always pity her and judge me. No one can ever come forward to feel for me.Just judge and judge.No one in the world I live in has ever felt for me.They even tell me whatever it is I have to love my mother. I live in thei dirty secret. But my husband knows everything and helps and supports me all the time. No one else.all just so ready to judge me.

How do you cope in this situation?What would you tell a close minded church person who feels so sorry for an evil abuser??