I hope I am not misinterpreting the issue you spoke to your T about two weeks ago, but it suddenly struck me when I read Snuffle's response above that the reason why he handed the question back to you is not because you were overstepping a boundary. Instead, it seems to me that he was trying to avoid overstepping a boundary. That boundary being the time-honored T tradition of leaving their feelings out of the room to focus on you. For him to talk about how he feels about you in any way is getting awfully close to that line, if not crossing it. Not just about sex-related things, but really everything. Maybe why he had such a hard time articulating his other feelings to you, too. Because the minute that the T's feelings about you are in the room, it really becomes all about their feelings, not about you.

Maybe that makes no sense at all, but I toss it there to be disposed of if not.