thanks for the reply, perna. good call on the soap - i washed my hands with this lavender soap that she has, but just now i washed with another soap just incase it's that smell that's triggering me. normally, i like smelling it on my hands, but not today! the odd thing is that it seems like it's my clothes detergent that's triggering me. i keep smelling my detergent on my clothes, but that's what's really reminding me of her! maybe we use the same kind? i don't know why it's not bothered me before now though.

yes, i do think it's related to other things - like my mother. in fact, at one point in session today i said, "i miss my mom." it's almost like i got the mom-missing mixed up with missing my therapist. there were even a few times when i looked at her today, and thought of my mom, or felt like i was with my mom (or at least a mom), and i think i was transferring some of those feelings on to her.

anyway, thanks again for the reply.