Hi everyone,

I'm glad I found PsychCentral and I hope it proves to be helpful to me.

My BIG issue today is this,

To start out I must say that I hate to even discuss this with anyone period because in a way I feel like I might violate the confidentiality of
what the girl I'm talking about told me. But I feel it's in the best interest of both of us if I discuss it in a hidden place. I haven't even discussed this (and won't) with my two closest friends who know ALOT about me and what I deal with mentally.

I'm feeling the whole situation out but I feel a connection to a call girl I've seen for the past year. We've gotten to know each other on a much more personal level over that time and she's admitted that she's gotten much more closer to me than she ever has with any of her other clients.

I've gotten to the point where I'm much more confident and I've improved my appearance. I feel that I could have a relationship and not have to see anyone in that manner. I honestly feel a lot different. I notice different positive reactions from girls, etc.

I've seen her a lot less over the past few months, and I'm feeling it out and don't want to assume, but I feel that there is a connection between us. (I'm Bipolar-2) We confided in each other about what we deal with, we both have similar mental issues and she's been very open with me about her life. I let her know how I felt, and I think I told her that I have feelings for her that I'm not sure about and I want to at least get to know her better as a friend. She was open to it, and admitted that she does like to talk to me on a personal level.

I've shown her that I'm understanding and accepting, and I am not quick to judge people because I feel that people can change.

I brought this up to my T and she made it clear that she couldn't tell me what to do but she thought it was a terrible idea. She said if I were her son she would honestly tell me to not get involved with this girl because she has too many emotional issues to deal with. I told her that I feel that I agree with her that I can't save anyone, but I feel that you can help people to help themselves. My T said "no".

This irritated me very very much. I feel that my T is only judging this girl based on the fact of what she does. I feel that she is going along with the image of everyone who does that being hooked on heroine or crack and being very trashy and filthy. This girl isn't like that, I've gotten a deeper understanding of her and found traits about her that I like. Our relationship is changing and I want to see where it goes.

I realize that I could be hurt, but I tried to explain that there are other women with issues and I could be hurt bad by anyone.

I feel that my T's opinion would be a little different if this girl had mental issues but didn't do what she does.

I believe that people can change, I believe that when people are judged and set aside as outcast it makes it really really hard for them to change because no one will support them or provide any understanding.

Deep down in my heart I feel that I should follow my own instincts.
The last few times I didn't It didn't make a difference, I ended up making mistakes anyway.

There are women that are considered sluts who sleep with anyman who comes along, and they change once they get past their early 20's. Why is it okay to start a relationship with those girls? They will sleep with a man just because he will buy them drinks, gifts, he has a nice car, makes a lot of money, pays for everything, etc. I understand that there are differences, but why is that okay?

I understand that this is going to be a difficult road, but why run just because there's the chance that something else could be easy.
Who here agrees with what and why?