I'm really sorry. My T sometimes asks me to 'call the adult in' to deal with the child and I just can't. It is so painful. I don't want to meet my needs, I want T to do it. I totally understand you there. All I can say is keep talking and expressing those feelings and needs; T may not change her mind, but talking can release some energy trapped around those feelings and eventually help you move on. I know it's not the same but it does help.