I need a new therapist. [This is all just me venting. My question is at the second paragraph.] The one I have now is seems like she just doesn't give a ****. I'm giving therapy an honest effort. She isn't. I prepare myself each day before I come in to see her, write out things I'd like to discuss with her and things that concern me and do self distributed homework. She doesn't. She hasn't even given me homework. I'm the one that will be doing the work and she's not giving it to me. Wtf? It's been my 8th session with her and I feel like I've accomplished nothing. Not only that, but I feel consistently worse than when I come in. When in therapy, I bring up something important - something a therapist would likely want or need to investigate further - and she just basically says "Oh, that's bad" and that's it. No questions, no thinking, no strategies. Like once I told her that I got into a huge fight with my mom that really shook me up. It was one of those fights that could have turned physical any minute. And she just said "Oh wow. That must have been difficult." Yeah! No **** Sherlock! And that was it. I tried bringing it up again to let her know that this fight wasn't some little squall over who ate the last cookie in the cookie jar, it was a very emotional angry, tearful fight filled with screaming and hate. She still had the same response. WTF?! She just doesn't give a ****ing ****! I know my life isn't always that interesting, but Christ! I've even told her several times that I was seriously contemplating suicide. I was looking up what gun is best to use for a suicide attempt, checking out gun shops around my neighborhood, looking at the prices and I wrote out a specific step-by-step plan for myself with parts in it designed to keep me from getting cold feet. I finally realized that I probably should inform her about this because maybe it doesn't have to end this way, so I did. And guess what? Same thing. She just told me to start doing positive affirmations. WTF?! POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS? What kind of ******** is that?! If you don't believe what you're writing, it's not going to change anything!!! WOW. *catching breath* Sorry... I am very pissed off right now. Don't get me wrong, I do believe there is value in being sure that you acknowledge the good things that happen in your life, but making good **** up isn't going to help you one ****ing bit. That's exactly what the ****ing "Secret" is! And has anyone who wanted to be rich ever become rich by applying the "Secret"? No. End of story. Anyways, so I gave my therapist a chance. I really did. In the beginning my gut was telling me that this may not work out for various reasons. I should have listened to my gut. But I didn't. Instead I came back every week, giving an honest effort and trying to maintain a positive attitude. Nothing came out of it but frustration and anger.

Now I need to find someone else who (hopefully) will be different for the better. So, really I just want to ask (after all that venting) how do you go about finding a therapist? (I was appointed the therapist I have now, so I have no idea where to look.) Do you look in the Yellow Pages? Do you talk to your GP? Do you ask for a referral with the one you have now? Do you look online? I don't really know where to look - or where are the best places to look. Does anyone here know? Thanks.