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Originally Posted by ItchyHaunt
I need a new therapist. [This is all just me venting. My question is at the second paragraph.] The one I have now is seems like she just doesn't give a ****. I'm giving therapy an honest effort. She isn't. I prepare myself each day before I come in to see her, write out things I'd like to discuss with her and things that concern me and do self distributed homework. She doesn't. She hasn't even given me homework. I'm the one that will be doing the work and she's not giving it to me. Wtf? It's been my 8th session with her and I feel like I've accomplished nothing. Not only that, but I feel consistently worse than when I come in. When in therapy, I bring up something important - something a therapist would likely want or need to investigate further - and she just basically says "Oh, that's bad" and that's it. No questions, no thinking, no strategies.
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I used to feel very much like this. In my case, it was the reaction of a disciplined, structural thinker (me) to the holistic and apparently planless nature of therapy.
Therapy is a bit like Zen: the more you study, the further from the way.
The ideal is to go in without notes, without objectives and just let it happen. Turn off your conscious mind and let your heart speak.
Crazy, right?
But if it is true, then getting a new therapist won't solve the problem.
Instead, you must embrace a way of thinking that you find alien and abhorrent.
In the meantime, there are lots of people here who feel the same way you do, and you may find comfort and companionship in that.