OCD and social anxiety aren't tiny problems. They can be quite dilapidating. I wouldn't feel comfortable with a T that was all-consumed with my sex life. It's possible that his asking about why you're not having sex is his weird way of figuring out your social hangups, but even when I knew my T was attracted to me, he didn't press me with questions about my sex life. Either we don't have all the information or your pdoc is rather creepy. It seems, from all you've posted on the topic, that you believe the latter. And if this is so, why do you stay? In an attempt to prove that he is truly attracted to you?

I'm wary, thanks to my own issues and years spent researching why I've done the things I have, of passing judgement completely regarding your pdoc's motives. There were times that I thought men wanted nothing but sex from me and I used this to avoid my issues. If you truly believe that he is being inappropriate, leave as soon as you can. Nothing good will come from waiting to be sure that he is attracted to you. If he is, it will only confuse you further. But if he is just trying to help, much can be gained from exploring your social anxiety and the ways in which sex ties into it. You have posted about being incredibly aware of your physical attractiveness many times but there is a lot more to you than that. I know from personal experience that relying or hoping on a man that is attracted to you will only bring heartache and turmoil. Get out or ask why he is so focused on sex. And if he says anything remotely creepy, run. There are really no other options if you truly want to be well.