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Originally Posted by Stoda
Constantly beating ourselves up, is not a good thing.  Although it's something I often do myself. I'm learning with the help of t and a really really great guy  , that it's okay to feel what we feel. We are allowed to have our feelings, we have a right to feel what we feel, and there are often good reasons for our feelings. I'm learning to explore my feelings, to understand and accept them. This is by no means easy, but it helps when you have some sort of support system.
Sorry I kinda got off topic there, but I think I'll still post it ... in case it helps someone else. Hang in there Trin! |
Good post, Stoda. Thanks for this. Let me try out a thought: if we accept that it's a good thing to explore negative feelings (I'm not convinced that it is, but let's assume so for the moment) we need to do it while we remember it, preferrably while we're still experiencing it. While we're unhappy we might not be willing to do what we need to get away from the feeling, just like TD wrote in the first post. When we're no longer unhappy we want to fix the unhappiness but then it's harder to explore the feeling.
And maybe that's one thing therapy is good for: accessing the negative feelings to make it possible to talk about them and get away from them, 1) in an environment where it's possible to do that and 2) with a person who is trained to help us access the bad stuff.
Does that make sense?
And, um, forgive me for writing this, but surely a RL support system can't be a prerequisite.