There were so many blazing red flags in my relationship when I met my (now
husband) at 18ys of age. I was naive and thought it would get better but it only got worse. These are mine and I'm only using 'he' because it applies to me.

1. pay attention to how he acts when he's mad - if he doesn't treat others respectfully during a conflict, then he'll do the same to you.
2. never says sorry but you have to.
3. lies.
4. flirts with women
5. call you names
6. threatens you
7. discourages you from having friends
8. blows up problems with your family to encourage alienation
9. ignores you when he's mad or blows up.
10 cheats on you and justifies it.
11. controlling
12 he doesn't have to follow relationship guidelines but you do.
13. he can have a bad attitude but you can't respond.

There's more but can't remember ATM