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Old May 11, 2012, 07:42 PM
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I disagree with everybody else. Seriously, although I suspect that they may be right. But in my world, you never know how good a T is until you tell them how much they suck. It gives you incredible power and is usually a game changer if you are of the sort that typically keeps your feelings to yourself. Or if you're of the sort who just sort of dumps friends and lovers at the drop of a hat, without really talking about what's wrong.

I say go for one more session. Read her your post here if you can't put it into words. See what there is to learn about yourself from what she has to say back (because, shock of shockers, sometimes our perceptions about things are colored by our own stuff). And maybe she might just turn out to be able to help you better, because I think that in 10 weeks there might have been some good moments along with what sounds like some real bonehead ones.

But perhaps you already have all this interpersonal relationship stuff worked out and you don't need to use this as an opportunity to talk about what's wrong in the relationship, and give the other person a chance to talk back. But for me it was really important to talk to my various T's over the years about what wasn't working for me. Some of them rose to the occasion and became amazing T's to me, after I trained them. Some of them either couldn't understand what I was saying or were defensive in return, and I dropped them. But each time I have chosen to engage and discuss what's wrong, I have moved a little further along the interpersonal competency spectrum, and my marriage and my friendships and my other relationships have all benefited from my enhanced ability to really communicate the tough stuff.

Just a friendly dissenting opinion.