a small update on this situation ......
I called our marriage T and stopped in to see her today. It was interesting, because I wanted to go to the gym after, but thought it would be more proper to wear something a bit nicer .... but I might as well as have worn my gym stuff, because she wore hers!
Anyway, I signed the release form, but she also gave me a bit of homework to do and bring back to her .. like a care treatment plan, a personal ongoing care plan. It's 3 pages and comprehensive but not too much to do. This way, that can satisfy perhaps the board's desire for her to have done individual assessment of me, I think.
And then we talked for a while, and it turned out to be a long while, really. Just discussing different things about my progress and what I'd do in the event of decompensation, my feelings about therapy and meds and reasoning for not wanting it now, stuff about the situation last summer and with T1. Turns out this T knows T1 fairly well .... and said knowing her, and putting that with what she knows about me, she could definitely see the grounds for strong transference/countertransference issues!
Anyway, she's pretty sure that she can help me with getting the release, that they'll be satisfied with what she provides them, and that they probably will not spend a lot of time hassling me after this. That would be great!