I have thought of you so often and wondered if things were getting better for you. I kept thinking of sending you a PM, even yesterday .... sorry I didn't.
But I am so glad to read this. You do have a special T and special relationship - no, not perfect, how could two not perfect people have a perfect relationship? I am glad that you 2 have been able to re-frame your perceptions, needs, limitations and strengths to re-create and renew the relationship in a form that is more real, more healing and helpful and true for each of you. I am so glad neither of you gave up on the other and have found your way back together again.
You do sound both relieved and more peaceful and hopeful. I can't express how happy I am to see this. You are SO special to me and have touched my heart so much.