Thanks everyone for your replies. They've been really interesting and helpful to read.

I weigh the pros and cons on a regular basis to help me decide if staying in the relationship is still what's best for me. I've been doing this for many years and even though there are still several cons, I believe the benefits far outweigh the negative stuff.

I hope it's ok to vent about the negative when it occurs. Talking about it helps me get past the hurt and anger and get on with my positive self talk.

You guys are the best. Thanks again. Susan